Obedience: BDSM habit tracker

Review by eFreeware

Habit apps tend to assume you are the only person who matters in your own routine. You set the goal, you tick the box, you answer to nobody but yourself. For couples in a BDSM dynamic, that model misses the point: the structure, the accountability and the exchange of rewards and punishments are part of the relationship, not a private self-improvement project.

Obedience is built for exactly that setup. It comes from a developer of the same name and presents itself as a habit tracker with a kink focus, built for couples in a BDSM dynamic, whether they are long practiced in kink or new to it. The idea is that one partner tracks habits and spends what they earn, while the other watches progress and decides what comes next.

How the habit tracking actually works

At its base, this is a habit tracker. You can add daily or weekly habits, and the app also gives you a way to address bad habits you want to break. That is the ordinary scaffolding you would expect from any tracker, and it is the part that carries the rest of the system.

The difference is who is in charge of it. The developer puts the dominant in control of rewards and punishments, so the app is less a private checklist and more a shared record of what has been agreed. Rewards and punishments can be handed out automatically or manually, which means the dynamic can run on rules you set up in advance or on decisions made in the moment.

The submissive side of the app has its own currency. Points are awarded that can be spent on rewards, so effort in one place converts into something the submissive wants in another. That loop is the core of the experience: habits feed points, points feed rewards, and the dominant keeps an eye on both.

Connecting two phones, and more than two people

Couples can connect their phones, and that connection is what makes the app a shared tool rather than two separate logs. One partner updates habit status and spends rewarded coins; the other sees those updates in real time and sets up the reward and punishment system around them. The distance between an action and its consequence shrinks to almost nothing.

The app also supports multiple submissives, which widens the scope beyond a single one-to-one pairing. For a dominant with more than one partner in the dynamic, that means one place to keep track of habits, points and consequences rather than a patchwork of separate arrangements.

Sharing between partners looks like the part that decides whether the app fits a given couple. If the appeal is having someone else see your progress as it happens, the connected setup is the whole point. If both partners would rather keep their own records, the shared layer has less to offer.

Rewards, reminders and reading the numbers

Beyond the reward and punishment mechanics, Obedience includes the supporting tools you would want in a tracker that is meant to be used every day. You can set reminder or alarm notifications, so habits do not quietly slip because nobody remembered them. You can also look at stats and graphs covering your habits, which turns a run of individual check-ins into a picture of how things are going over time.

There are color themes to choose from as well, a small touch that matters more than it sounds when an app is going to sit on your home screen and be opened in the context of an intimate relationship. None of these features are unusual on their own. What makes them notable here is that they are arranged around a dynamic rather than around solitary self-improvement.

The most recent update, version 10.22.8, adds finer control for dominants over what their submissives are permitted to do, along with security updates and refreshed translations. That permission control is a sensible direction for an app where one partner is deliberately given authority over the other's settings.

What it asks of you before you start

Obedience is free to install and carries no ads, though it does offer in-app purchases. It is rated Mature 17+, which is worth taking at face value given what the app is for. The app dates back to February 2019 and was updated in October 2026, so this is not a project that appeared recently and stopped.

The bigger requirement is not technical. This app only makes sense if there is already a BDSM dynamic between the people using it, or a clear intention to build one. The reward and punishment framework, the points, the permission settings and the shared visibility all assume that one partner has agreed to answer to the other in some structured way. Without that agreement, the features have nothing to attach to.

It also assumes both partners are comfortable putting part of their relationship into an app. That is a real trade-off: convenience and a clear record on one side, and the feeling that something private has been reduced to checkboxes and graphs on the other. Couples will weigh that differently, and the app does not pretend to be for everyone.

Who this fits

The clearest fit is a couple already practicing a BDSM dynamic who want the everyday habits side of it to have structure. If the dominant is the one who decides rewards and consequences, and the submissive is the one working through a list, this app gives that arrangement a home rather than leaving it to memory and messages.

It also suits people newer to kink who want a gentle framework to explore with. The habit builder is described as simple, and the app is pitched as a way to build healthy habits while exploring fetish interests, which suggests it can serve as a starting structure rather than something you need experience to operate.

Dominants with more than one submissive are another natural audience, since the app explicitly supports that. And anyone who responds well to visible progress, graphs and a running tally of points will find the feedback loop more satisfying than a plain checklist. The 4.7 average suggests a fair number of people have found a use for it, though the app's subject matter means it will always be a niche tool rather than something for a general audience.

A tracker with a very specific purpose

Obedience does one thing and does it in a way that is hard to mistake for anything else. It takes the mechanics of a habit tracker, adds a currency of points, hands control of rewards and punishments to the dominant, and connects two phones so both partners see the same picture. The result is a tool built around accountability between people rather than discipline on your own.

It is for couples in a BDSM dynamic, and it is rated for adults. It offers in-app purchases alongside a free download. If that describes your relationship and you want the habits, the points and the consequences kept in one shared place, this is a well-established option with a strong rating behind it.

For the couples it is built for, I would treat it as a serious candidate: install it, connect the two phones, and set up a small set of habits and rewards first to see how the shared loop feels before building out anything elaborate.

What's new in version 10.22.8

In this version of Obedience (v10.22.8): - Dominants now have finer control over their submissives' permissions. - We've included security updates and updated translation.